The Talk

I have been meaning to document this, before I forget all the funny and sweet details! Nile and I had "the talk" with the kids:) Yes, the husband and wife becoming one flesh talk, just to clarify. Nile did a great job of researching which books we may want to use to introduce them to this, and it was also very helpful to read portions of Genesis 1-4 to them. We tried to really focus on what a gift to married people sex is, how God has blessed us with this awesome gift to share with our spouse. The kids' reactions were so different, and hilarious. More on that in a minute. Nile started by saying we were going to have our family worship time, so we all sat on the floor together and snuggled up, with snacks ready for the end of our worship time.

I don't know why, but I have been dreading this talk! I think I was fine with them hearing how everything works, so to speak, but super nervous about when they realized that Nile and I actually do this, haha. So Nile starts reading the Bible and then reads a NavPress book called 'The Story of Me'...so far so good, besides Josie giggling every time the correct names for private parts are used (which are the only words we have ever used for them, so not sure why it was so funny to her:)) Then he reads the next book in the series, called 'Before I Was Born' and I am just beside myself waiting (maybe dreading) for him to get to THE page, the one where it explains the details:) We got past the page, and no one said anything, so I thankfully exhaled. Then, all of a sudden, Gabe says, "Wait, seriously?!" I almost died laughing. And so the questions began:) Gabe had SO many questions, and I just sat there thanking God that all of this was brand new to him, he had no idea before our talk, and that we were the ones blessed to be able to answer all of his innocent and curious questions. What a special time. It was also hysterical, though, as he worked through things in his mind, making connections as he went. My favorite from him: "Wait, you and dad have done that 3 times?! Wait, you've done that 6 times?!" (He was figuring in the 3 miscarriages I've had) "Wait, you still do this?! Are you going to do it tonight?!" (And that's where we drew the only line as far as him asking us questions...we aren't going to announce when we do it, lol!)
After about a half hour (seriously) of Gabe asking questions, Seth said, "Can we stop talking about this stuff now? This stuff scares kids"...smiling while he said it. He kind of took it all in in his calm, low key style...course he couldn't really get a word in with all of Gabe's questions. We finished our discussion, telling them they could ask us questions anytime, that we'd never laugh at them, and that they never need to be embarrassed about asking us things. I would rather answer their questions than have them hear about it from kids at school! We also made sure to let them know they were not allowed to talk to other kids about it, because each family gets to make their own decision on when to talk about these things. Then we held hands and prayed for them, their purity, for this special gift for married people, etc. We needed to go to a church event, so we had to cut Gabe off and tell him he could ask more later. Nile has another book, the 3rd book in the series, for Gabe alone, which we will do sometime this year.

I was so thankful for how Nile led all of this, how God was glorified and esteemed through it all, and how successful he was at making this talk not something to be embarrassed about but instead, something to be thankful to God for. I am, however, very glad this talk (or at least the first of many talks on this) is over. :)